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Avoiding showering

Hello everyone. This is an especially vulnerable topic, as I've never shared it with anyone, fearing people will call me unhygienic and not even doctors, fearing that they'd refuse to validate my motives. Basically I can't shower more than once every week because it gives me awful rashes. My eczema has been super stable for the past year so only now I'm able to notice how much of a trigger showering is. My skin can be smooth, rash free, normal looking, and as soon as I take a shower I get rashes all over my legs (mostly) and arms and spend the rest of the week itching. It's not because of any of the following reasons: temperature (I haven't taken a hot shower in years), duration (I still get rashes from shower under a minute), soap (even of I don't use any soap I still get it), hardness of the water (I use a filtered shower head), nor lack of moisturizer after (I have enough years of this to know it's a must). I get along very well just by washing my privates, armpits, feet, hands, and any crevices of my body and avoiding washing my body in the shower and my face. I don't feel my skin dirty since it's quite dry so nothing really sticks to it nor do I sweat much. I have absolutely stopped washing my face because the flare ups were tremendous, as it is the most sensitive part of my skin. For the body, I still try to shower once every week out of insecurity for feeling unhygienic to societal parameters although it completely destroys my newly healed skin every time I do it.
I hate feeling this. I know that the more I spend without showering the better my skin feels, but the worst I feel about myself. Like not showering is the epitome of lack of hygiene and because of that I don't feel comfortable being intimate with people because I know they'd be disgusted if they'd knew I barely shower. For that reason I spend all days thinking about I can smell better, clean myself better in ways that don't involve showering and it's becoming obsessive.
I apologize for this rant but I just want to know if there's someone out there who has experienced the same because I can't find one single post about it online. And if you have did you find a solution? Does anyone have any other suggestion on why these rashes might happen? Thank you so much

  1. I think it might depend on what you're using to wash with. It's important to use a moisturizing body wash. Either a bar or body wash with colloidal oatmeal like Aveeno or something with some natural healthy oils is good. It's also important not to dry skin by rubbing it with a towel. I just blot my skin and let myself sort of air dry.

    1. Hi Sofia. Thank you for writing in and sharing your struggles. I can see how frustrating this must feel. Know you are not alone. From what I gather, this is something new happening (past year, not whole life). Have you ever been tested for a water allergy? I know that sounds crazy and bizarre, but it seems to be the one factor. Have you also tried different soaps/washes? Those are the biggest two things I can think of.

      1. If you look up showering or bathing under eczema it explains how water gives you more moisture which is the one thing eczema sufferers require. If you follow the instruction it says how bathing more often is crucial. Using lukewarm water (never hot) and a good moisturizing eczema cleanser (never soap or scented washes) it's good. Soap is a no-no according to the National Eczema Organization.

        Tips for bathing and moisturizing with eczema
        Some things to remember when bathing:

        Take at least one bath or shower a day
        Bathe or shower in lukewarm (not hot) water for 10 to 15 minutes
        Avoid scrubbing your skin with a washcloth or loofah
        Use a gentle cleanser (not soap)
        During severe flares, limit the use of cleansers to further avoid irritation
        Some things to remember when moisturizing:

        Use a high-oil content moisturizer twice a day to improve hydration and protect the skin barrier
        Moisturize hands every time you wash them or they come into contact with water
        Schedule your bathing and moisturizing routine at night, just before bed. This can help your skin better retain its moisture
        If you have eczema on your hands, soak your hands in water, then follow with an application of your prescription medication (if you use one) and moisturizer. Wear cotton gloves over your hands while you sleep to help “lock in” the moisturizer

      2. Hi @tikobird I am not sure if this was meant to be directed to me. I did my best with the information I was given, and if someone does have a trigger allergy to water, I do not wish to tell them to keep suffering through showers. There is also NMT (No Moisture Treatment) that some with severe eczema or TSW use as a form of treatment, which is no showering at all, so there are different ways to tackle eczema. Eczema is sadly not a one size fits all, but I appreciate your tips!

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